Motherhood is a beautiful journey, but it’s also exhausting at times. Two things can definitely be true at once, and this is no exception. Between juggling work, family, friends, and your to-do list, making time for yourself can feel impossible. But here’s the truth: self-care isn’t selfish. It’s essential. When you care for yourself, you’re better equipped to care for everyone else. There is balance, and you can find it!

So, how can busy moms build a self-care routine that fits into their packed schedules? Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you prioritize your needs without the guilt.

Step 1: Redefine Self-Care

Self-care doesn’t have to mean spa days or expensive retreats (though those are nice!). It’s about finding small, meaningful ways to recharge and nurture yourself. Take advantage of those in-between moments, and:

• Think small: A 10-minute walk, a quiet cup of tea, or a few deep breaths can be incredibly restorative.
• Focus on consistency: It’s better to do something small daily than something big occasionally.
• Make it personal: What makes you feel good? Reading, stretching, journaling, or simply sitting in silence?

Step 2: Schedule “Me Time” Like an Appointment

You know what they say - if it’s not on the calendar, it's not going to happen. Treat your self-care like any other commitment, and stick to it! As moms, we know it's super easy to say no to ourselves and yes to everyone else, but practice makes perfect. The more we learn to say no to things that aren't necessary, the easier it becomes.

Try these tips for scheduling: time to yourself:

• Start small: Block out 15 minutes a day for something you enjoy.
• Communicate: Let your family know that this time is important for you.
• Be flexible: Life happens. If you miss a day, don’t beat yourself up. Just try again tomorrow.
• Know when to say no: Is making cookies for the bake sale truly important when you've already volunteered twice this month? It's okay to pick and choose what you do with your time.

Step 3: Build Self-Care into Your Daily Routine

You don’t need to overhaul your life to practice self-care. Instead, weave it into what you’re already doing. You do deserve to take a five-minute break, after all.

• Morning boost: Start your day with a moment of gratitude or a quick stretch.
• Midday reset: Take a mindful minute to breathe or step outside.
• Evening wind-down: Swap scrolling social media for reading, journaling, or a warm bath with relaxing Epsom salts.

Step 4: Ask for Help

You don’t have to do it all. Lean on your support system when you can.

• Delegate: Share responsibilities with your partner or older kids.
• Connect: Join a mom group or Bible study, and lean on friends for encouragement.
• Hire help: If possible, consider hiring help for cleaning, yardwork, childcare, or meal prep. If that hour you would typically spend mowing the grass gives you some peace, it is well worth the expense if your budget allows it.

Step 5: Let Go of the Guilt

Many moms feel guilty prioritizing themselves. But remember: taking care of yourself allows you to show up better for your family. You know how the flight attendant says to put your life vest on first before you can assist anyone else? Same concept.

• Reframe your mindset: Self-care isn’t indulgent; it’s necessary. In many cases, things on your to-do list can wait, and you are worth that wait, Mom!
• Set an example: Show your kids the importance of prioritizing mental and physical health. Kids don't always listen to what you say - they mimic what you do.
• Celebrate wins: Even small moments of self-care are worth celebrating.

10 Simple Self-Care Ideas for Moms

1. Savor your morning coffee—hot, uninterrupted, and guilt-free.
2. Take a 10-minute walk around the block.
3. Enjoy a mini home spa with a face mask and candles.
4. Try deep breathing for 5 minutes using a guided app.
5. Write down three things you’re grateful for each day.
6. Listen to your favorite music or podcast.
7. Treat yourself to your favorite snack or dessert.
8. Read a chapter of a book just for fun.
9. Stretch or do light yoga before bed.
10. Call or text a friend for a quick chat.

Building a self-care routine isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress. Start small, stay consistent, and remember: You deserve this time for yourself. Because when moms thrive, everyone benefits.

 

You’ve got this, and we’ve got you.

The Calm Mom Team